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Abstract: 

What if the most dangerous moment in an abusive relationship is the very beginning—when warning signs are easiest to miss? This compelling review of Choose Him Wisely by David B. Wexler and Donald Meichenbaum reveals how seasoned clinicians translate decades of violence-prevention research into a practical, life-saving framework for evaluating prospective partners. Using the tragic Gabby Petito case as a lens, the book exposes how behaviors often mistaken for passion—jealousy, control, intensity—can signal escalating risk. Blending empirical risk assessment with intuitive self-awareness, the authors offer readers concrete tools to identify red flags, ask the right questions, and trust their instincts before commitment. For professionals and individuals alike, this is essential guidance on preventing harm before it begins.

Keywords: Red Flags; Coercive Control; Relationship Safety

Affiliations:  1: Associate Editor.